LOSS OF CHILDREN

[摘要] With the children's development into puberty and adolescence, their impending loss is a threat to the system the parents have so arduously constructed. The children lose their parents, but parents also begin to lose their children (from early adolescence), and it is this depression that may evolve into a serious clinical melancholia. The parents experience a sense of emptiness about the home and an absence of goals that had motivated them so strongly and consistently throughout the childhood of their children. A solution to this threat of loss is the refusal to let go, albeit indirectly, and the attempt to lock the children further into an already carefully orchestrated double bind. The various major and minor revolutions-in-opposition express the desperate effort to break out of this bondage, with the effect that society gets the type of adolescent it expects and deserves. By further extension of the transactional process, the adolescent and young adult get (though not beget) and perpetuate the type of parent they expect and deserve.

[学科分类] 儿科学